If you are afraid of yourself, only then are you afraid of other people. If you love yourself, you love others. If you hate yourself, you hate others. In relationship with others, it is only you - mirrored. The other is nothing but a mirror. So whatsoever happens in relationship, always know that it must have happened before, within you - because the relationship can only magnify what is already within you. It cannot create; it can only show and manifest what is already there.